Boyfriend and I have been having some intense discussions lately about *gasp* the future. I have found myself often wanting to tear my own hair out whenever this topic is brought up between the two of us because it was always met with a commitment-phobia that would give even Mr. Big a run for his money. This would spark a lot of anger and annoyance with occasional tears, all on my part of course, because I never shut up and go a little crazy saying things I knew I’d be apologizing for in the morning. But ultimately we’d end up right back where we started- having fun and just enjoying each other’s company- which we do and it’s great. Sometimes I can get a little ahead of myself. I’m 23, he’s 25. We’re young, plenty of time, no rush, we have the rest of our lives, blah blah blah. But I want it now!! (haha).
Then finally the unthinkable happened… boyfriend says without a shred of sarcasm, but instead with total sincerity.
Boyfriend: Meg, I want to buy a house. I want to sell my motorcycle, buy a house, and start the future.
Me: (loud noise as jaw hits the floor… followed by stunned silence.)
Boyfriend: What?
Me: Seriously? Umm… ok…. (still shocked) No wait!! Don’t sell the motorcycle!!
Boyfriend: (loud noise as jaw hits the floor… followed by stunned silence.)
Me: I seriously just said that, didn’t I? (slaps myself)
So anyway… we’re doing it!! No more apartment hunting!! We’re buying a house! Well boyfriend is… I’m not really in a position where I can help out other than say, yes pick this one! (Which is perfect if you ask me!) I was very nervous at first, but now I’m just excited. A real place to call our own. Decorate and paint and start the next step.
Just when I’ve written him off as a commitment-phobic butthead that will never come around… he completely surprises me with something so wonderful that it makes me roll my eyes at just how stupid I can be… and then I smile at how lucky I am.
*Pardon my sappiness. I don’t use it often so just this once you can all say, awwwww, and then go vomit all over your computer screen.*







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I’m gonna pull the “I told you so” card. Boys really have a checklist of things they want to accomplish before they have take a wife. Now you know what’s on his. It’s a good sign.
By thecoconutdiaries on 07.22.08 9:33 am | Permalink
haha ok ok Jenn. You get to pull the “I told you so” card… I will allow it.
By MsCatalysta on 07.22.08 11:44 am | Permalink
awwwww… gag, gag… lol…. Srsly though…. awwww. I have to agree with Jenn, guys usually always have a checklist and they won’t fully commit until they have those things accomplished. I’m so happy for you guys. Definitely want to see pics when you pick out the house!
By Cereal Dieter on 07.22.08 2:44 pm | Permalink
Oooo, house purchaseness! Congrats! We’re still in the Land of Rent, but that’s largely because we’ll probably end up overseas in the next few years. Kudos!
By Foz Meadows on 07.22.08 8:34 pm | Permalink
I really don’t understand when boys turned into “committmentphobes” if thats even a word. My parents got married very young, and I have never heard my Dad saying well we rushed into things. In fact he was the one pushing my mom. I guess my question is, did society change men, did their fathers pull them aside when they were like 12 in the garage and say, look you should wait to get married at all cost. . . . . But then again who wants to rush into marriage when the divorce rate is so high in America. *sigh* a lot of questions, with no real answers.
By Katydidlove on 07.22.08 8:44 pm | Permalink
oh katie katie… how did I know you would comment on this particular post??
Fozmeadows- overseas? That’s pretty cool! what for?
By MsCatalysta on 07.22.08 9:07 pm | Permalink
Wow, I’m behind and catching up… this is good stuff! Congrats!
By Lara Kretler on 07.23.08 1:38 pm | Permalink
aaaah! Home ownership is really freaky, but it can all be worth it in the end. Mine didn’t buy with me, so, in this market, he’s kinda stuck with what we-I–got. We deal.
By paisana on 07.24.08 8:36 pm | Permalink
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